Thanksgiving 2019

Thanksgiving is THIS week and many of us are in planning/preparation mode. If someone living with dementia will be a part of your holiday gathering, I want you to say this phrase aloud and use it to guide your interactions with that loved one...

"Less is best"

Did you say it out loud? Are you thinking this doesn't apply to your situation?

Seriously, I have seen this every year for the 17 years I've worked in dementia care. I say this with deep love and respect, knowing that your intentions are good... When planning holiday time with a loved one living with dementia, you must think LESS.

Less people around.

Less time/duration of visits.

Less food options.

Less extravagant gifts.

Less decorations.

Less travel.

Less changes to the person’s normal routine.

Less snippy over-stressed family members around. (sorry, were those your toes I just stepped on, friend?)

Less stimulation.

Are you catching my drift here? Less is more!

Less everything!

If you want more information, I have some practical tips just for you. Please message me or comment below with your email address. I would love to share ideas that may help make the holiday season more enjoyable for you and your loved one living with dementia.

Take good care, friends.

Rebekah Wilson, MSW
Aging Care Coach

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